One of Tom’s 12 Laws that stuck a chord with me was Number 4:  You make your habits, and then your habits make you.  How true, especially when it comes to balanced health.

Although you might not agree with all of Tom’s 12 Laws and admittedly, some of them are pretty harsh (see Number 9 about Happily Ever Afters), the main point is that Tom has put some thought into figuring out his outlook on life, his idea of how life works, his rules to live by.

Here’s why that’s critically important to you and me:  these ideas or “rules” that we all have of how life works essentially dictate how you view everything, and everyone, in your life.

If your “life’s rules” include the belief that all strangers are not to be trusted, you’ll never be open to meeting new people.  If you believe the world is a dark, hostile place, filled with horrible people, that’s exactly what you’ll find.  Why?  Because that’s all you’ll be looking for.

On the other hand, if you believe that there’s always some good in everyone and that it’s your job to find it, you’ll find a world filled with goodness.

Someone once said that when you’re born, Life hands you a coloring book and a set of crayons.  You get to choose which colors to use.  You decide whether your world is a mixture of blacks and grays or whether it’s filled with a rainbow of bright colors.

Your “Rules to Live By” are like a set of filters that only allow you to see what you believe the world is really like.

So here’s the million dollar question:  what are your “Rules to Live By?”

What “filters” do you view the world with?  Are they positive and uplifting?  Do they support your goals?  Do they bring you joy, peace, and balanced health?  If they don’t, you really need to ask yourself whether or not they’re worth keeping.

How do you do that?  The first step is to write them down.  Your journal is the perfect place for this (you do have one, right?).

Find a quiet place and ask yourself, what rules do I live by?  What beliefs shape my view of the people and events in my life?  What crayons am I using to color my world?

Give these questions some thought and write down whatever immediately comes to mind.  Don’t worry about trying to come up with a perfectly formed list at first.  Your first step is to write down as many thoughts and ideas as you can.

After a little time has passed, review what you’ve written.  Ask yourself, “is that what I really believe?”  Ask yourself this several times in order to strip away the things that you think you “should” believe and get down to the things you really believe.  Feel free to revise, reword, add, and delete at this stage.

Continue reworking your list until you’re confident that each item describes what you really believe about how life is set up.

Now for the difficult part.  Once your list is fairly complete, go through each item and ask yourself, “what is this belief giving me, or costing me?”  For some items, you’ll find that the belief brings you a lot of joy, or happiness, or some other benefit.  For others, you might find that a particular belief costs you quite a bit in potential relationships and opportunities.

Lastly, ask yourself which of these rules to live by are still valid and worth keeping, and which are no longer consistent with the person you want to become or the world you want to live in.   Put stars by, or underline, the “rules” worth keeping or those that provide some sort of positive benefit.  Mark through or “x” out the ones that don’t support the life you want to live.  Then think of new, better ones to replace the ones you just marked out.

You have no idea how powerful this is. The simple act of asking yourself “what rules do I really live by,” writing them down, and then thinking about the consequences of having those beliefs is nothing less than life changing.

The neat part of doing this is that it doesn’t matter how young or how old you are.  As Tom Hoobyar notes in his Rule Number 12, “it’s never too late to change.”  Amen to that.

So what are your “Rules to Live By?”

Hiram
The Balanced Health Guy

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I’ve kept a journal since my early 20′s.  Believe me, there’s nothing more interesting than going back and reading what I wrote (and was like) 20 or 30 years ago.  You can see the things in your life that have changed, the things that have entered your life and then left again, and the things that have pretty much stayed the same.  It’s a history of how you’ve lived your life.  It shows you exactly “where all the time went.”

The Importance of Keeping a Journal.

Why do I believe that keeping a journal is important?  Because your life is worth recording.  Yes, I know that it’s easier to break out the camera during holidays and special events.  Yes, I know that a picture is worth a thousand words.  However, there is one important thing that pictures do not capture:  your feelings.

Having a picture of your newborn grandchild is nice.  However, reading (and re-reading) in your journal how it felt to hold your grandchild in your arms for the first time will bring back a flood of memories that no picture can ever match.

When you look at a picture, you remember the moment.  When you read an entry in your journal, you re-live the moment.  There’s a huge difference.

That’s why you need to keep a journal.

What to Put in Your Journal.

Most people stress over what to put in their journal.  Don’t.  First of all, your journal is for you.  No one else will ever read it unless you allow them to so don’t worry about spelling, sentence structure, or anything else.

Here are a couple of things I include in my journal:

1.  Random Thoughts. Anything from “buy low, sell high” to “God is love and God lives in me.”  From the silly to the profound, it goes in my journal.  You’d be surprised how often something that seemed completely ridiculous at the time all of a sudden had some deep meaning when I went back and re-read it later.

2.  Events and Feelings. Record the important events and more importantly, how they made you feel.  Don’t worry about completely describing the event, that’s what pictures and videos are for.  Instead, focus on describing your feelings, thoughts, and emotions.  For example, I have all kinds of pictures of my first grandchild but what I remember most are the intense feelings of hope, tenderness, pride, and overwhelming love that I felt when I held him and he first looked up at me.

3.  Exercise, Nutrition, and Sleep. Although many people keep a separate exercise and/or food journal, there’s no reason not to have everything in one place.  The important thing is that you keep track of whether or not you’re exercising consistently, whether or not you’re eating properly, and whether or not you’re getting enough rest.  If not, your journal will help you see exactly where you went off track.

4.  Your Goals, Hopes, and Dreams. Make sure you make a record of what you’d like your future to be like.  What would you like to have, to do, to be?  Reading my past goals usually brings mixed emotions.  Sometimes I get frustrated because I haven’t reached some of my goals.  Other times I’m pleasantly surprised to find that I have accomplished most of what I said I would (sometimes without even knowing it).  And some times, I realize that some of what I said I wanted is no longer desirable.

Review Your Journal Periodically.

Remember when you were growing up and your parents would stand you up straight against a wall or a door frame and mark how much you’d grown?  Remember how good it made you feel when you turned around and saw that the new mark was higher than your old one?  That’s how reviewing your journal makes you feel.  You can actually SEE your progress.

When you review some of your past entries, not only will you re-live some of the more significant moments of your life, you’ll also see how much you’ve grown, how much you’ve changed, how much more you’ve become. You’ll get this incredible feeling that “if I’ve come this far, there’s nothing I can’t do!”

My Challenge To You.

In order for your journal to work for you, you have to make writing in it a habit.  One of the best things I ever did in 2007 was to purchase one of those “daily diaries.”  It’s basically a calendar with one page for each day.  My goal was to fill it up – and I actually did.  Most of my entries are only 1 or 2 paragraphs so it never took more than 5 or 10 minutes each day.  However, I can now look back and see exactly what I was doing/thinking/feeling on this same day a year ago.  It’s kind of neat to be able to do that – and it shows you a lot about how you’re living your life.

My challenge to you is to do the same. Go out today and purchase a yearly “daily dairy” calendar that has one page for each day of whatever size will be convenient for you.  Then at the end of each day, spend no more than 5 or 10 minutes describing what you did, what you thought, or what you felt that day.  An alternative is to make your journal entries in the morning for the previous day but I’ve found that when you do this, a lot of things tend to get forgotten.  However, the important thing is to write something every single day.

So will you do it?  Are you up to the challenge?  I guarantee that it will change your life. How?  By seeing where you’ve been and how you’ve lived, you’ll begin to make better choices for the future.  When you do that, your future changes.  You’ll no longer be caught in the vicious cycle of doing something stupid, feeling bad about it, forgetting about it, and then doing it all over again.  You’ll see a written record of your progress.

Keeping a journal is one of the best things you can do to bring balance to your life.  So what are you waiting for?

Hiram
The Balanced Health Guy

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